Being that this is the week of Thanksgiving, I am approaching the blog differently this time. I never need a reminder to be grateful for something…anything (!), no matter how small, every single day. If you are not able to do the same, then I challenge you to keep a gratitude journal in which you document something for which to be grateful each day. You might be surprised at what you come up with. So here are some of mine, in no particular order:
- I’m thankful for my rock, my partner in crime, my other half, my biggest cheerleader, my best friend, my love. He’s the yin to my yang, the pen to my paper, and the vim to my vigor. Bruce supports me on every step of my journey, and works hard so that I can focus on doing the things that keep me strong and healthy. Without him I’d be lost and hopeless.
- I’m thankful for my family, whether biological, steps, in-laws, or MS. However they became my family is unimportant because they are always there to see me through the dark moments and show me the light.
- I’m thankful for my tripod: my two best girls who have loved me from the moment we met, and who really are the other two legs of my tripod. Without them, I would never be able to stand up straight.
- I’m thankful for my adorable rescue dogs who always show me unconditional love. They provide me with so much joy and watching them rehabilitate from scared, skittish, and sometimes even aggressive with the right kind of love and affection makes us all better beings at the end of the day.
- I’m thankful for my many, many former students who are constant reminders of the career I loved but had to abandon far too soon. They inspire me with their accomplishments, and they fill me with a pride like no other I have ever felt.
- I am thankful for living in a time where medical research is constantly being done to create new treatments to help manage an incurable illness.
- I’m thankful for a medical team that listens to me, is honest, and truly cares about me not only as a patient, but also as a person. Our relationship spans 13 years and they really are family to me.
- I’m thankful for the seasons of the year because each one is special to me for different reasons, but each one reminds me of how fortunate I am to be able to experience them all.
- I’m thankful for a roof over my head and food in my refrigerator. Where we are today is so amazing, especially when I think about the tough days early in our marriage where food shopping was often done in my mother-in-law’s pantry.
- I’m thankful for the best qualities I inherited from the generations before me. I have my dad’s work ethic (not to mention curly hair), which made my career as successful as it was. From my beloved grandfather I inherited an open heart and an ability to love so fiercely, with every fiber of my being. Last, but certainly not least, I am blessed with my grandma Ruth’s fighting spirit and quick wit. She was at death’s door and bounced back too many times to count, and we often joked that she had nine lives. This quality is the one that I depend on most these days, and I am lucky to have inherited it.
- I’m thankful for this body that my spirit occupies, even though it is far from perfect. Under the surface there is a storm brewing, but I still feel stronger and healthier than I have in a long time. I will never take this body for granted no matter what it looks like because it’s just the shell of who I really am.
- I’m thankful for the technology that allows me to find support from friends and family at any moment, with just a single text. I’m also thankful for the aspect of social media that has allowed me to connect with loved ones from so many compartments of my past. We may not talk all the time, but I am comforted by their presence nonetheless.
- I’m thankful for my nephew, Lucas, for always making me laugh and smile. At just 20 months of age, he makes it impossible for me to be in a bad mood, and I can’t help but feel optimistic about the future when I see that little smile, hear that giggle, or feel his little hand in mine.
As you can see, I am never at a loss of things to be grateful for. This list is just a tiny peek at what I really feel, because I could keep on listing more and more. The point is that we shouldn’t need a day like Thanksgiving to be reminded of all the things around us that make us feel grateful. Gratitude is as important in my daily life as breathing is. None of us can control how much life we have left to live, but we can most definitely control how we view the days we do have. Being the staunch optimist that I am, some might say that being grateful comes easily. I, too, have my struggles, though. Although we shouldn’t need a day like Thanksgiving as the impetus to acknowledge the things we are grateful for, whether facing a chronic illness such as MS or not, we sometimes need a little push to help us look beyond the daily grind we often find ourselves trapped in. I make a conscious effort every single day to remove those blinders so that I can see all of the amazing blessings that fill my life. You should do the same.