This past week, I was side-lined by a sinus situation. I have terrible seasonal allergies, and with our late winter, straight to summer thing happening in our parts, my body has been as confused as nature has been. Adding the drastic heat and humidity only made things worse for me. For most of the week I could do nothing more than remain horizontal for fear that my eyeballs would pop out of my head.
That being said, I don’t handle this kind of situation well. I like to be up and active, doing my “schedule”. That’s the thing about teachers. We are so regimented because we are used to rigid schedules. I mean, we don’t do anything unless a bell rings telling us that we can! So being disability retired for four years now, I have created a schedule for myself that revolves around taking care of me. And quite honestly, I am pretty strict about maintaining that schedule because it gives me a sense of purpose.
But what I need to understand is that taking care of me requires that I listen to my body and give it what it needs, even if I am off my schedule. It’s not like when I was working and being absent caused more work in the long run. Now I have the freedom to do what I need to do, and I still feel a pang of guilt when I skip out on my usual activities. But why? It’s not like it causes more work like when I was teaching still, or that anyone would really notice my absence except me. It’s because old habits die hard, and apparently four years is still not long enough to outgrow those feelings.
The truth of the matter is that I’m still learning patience. Not normal patience, but self-patience. I need to understand that although most days I feel pretty good (all things considered), but I do have Multiple Sclerosis, which makes everything hit my body a whole lot harder than my healthy counterparts. I also can’t disregard the fact that I spent most of 2017 fighting breast cancer, and there are toxins that are still making their way out of my system. It’s easy for me to say these things, but not so easy for me to put those words into practice. I know my reality but I want to be the one who can overcome it all no matter what the circumstances. And I believe that I can… but not without patience.
The truth of the matter is that one week of down time is not going to kill my progress, and giving my body what it needs is the right thing to do, regardless of how impatient I become. In the long run, giving myself the week to rest and recover can only help me become stronger, and because of how awful I was feeling, it most likely would have led to frustration with myself, which I try to avoid at all costs because it plays with my mind and makes me feel down on myself when I know I shouldn’t.
So the moral of this week’s entry is one that everyone should be able to relate to. If you don’t take care of yourself first then you will be of no use to anyone else in your life. I want to feel like I contribute in a positive manner to all my loved ones, and in order to do that, I need to take care of number one. And although I am not sure about the origin of this quote, it is 100% true: “Patience is not about the waiting, but the ability to keep a good attitude while waiting.” I’m working on it.