Monthly Archives: May 2015

Stronger than MS

May 27, 2015 was World MS Day. All around the world, people take action in order to raise awareness for Multiple Sclerosis. Every year on World MS Day I stand in solidarity with my fellow warriors, still waiting for a cure but grateful for existing treatment options. 

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Using social media #strongerthanms has spread like wildfire, and I do believe that people are very aware of MS even if they don’t understand how brutal it can be despite the invisible nature of it’s symptoms. When thinking about this day and the social media campaign, I started thinking about my MS family and how every single one of us is stronger than MS. 

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All of us, as a whole, epitomize what the true meaning of “stronger than MS” is. I enlisted the help of my MS family, and we talked about what makes us stronger than MS. I can’t take credit alone for this blog entry because the voice is all of ours. There is no doubt that you’ll see why I surround myself with these people in particular.

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Considering that this discussion occurred right after our Thursday spin class, the first item that came up was exercise. We are all whole-heartedly committed to our MS exercise classes. We exercise for different reasons than other people, perhaps. But we are stronger than MS because we do more than anyone ever expected we could. They said we couldn’t ride bikes and lift weights at the same time. We do. The said we couldn’t do TRX. We do. We don’t let people dismiss us until we get a chance to show what we are capable of, and we’d rather fall down trying than to sit around and never challenge ourselves. 

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We are stronger than MS because we set goals for ourselves, both big and small, and we do whatever it takes to achieve them. We don’t necessarily care how long it takes, as long as we succeed. We may not be able to do things the same way as everyone else, and we often have to be creative in our methodology, but we always manage in the end. We are the most determined group of people that you’ll ever meet. 

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Every single person who walks the face of this earth is dealing with his or her own issues, which may or may not be visible. We are stronger than MS because we understand that nobody else’s problems are smaller or less important than our own. Everything is relative to the person. Certainly none of us would ever say that we have things worse than anyone else, and we are quick to comfort others in any way possible. 

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We all agree that we have limitations. Unfortunately, that’s a part of life with MS. Even though we have limitations, we do not let the affect those around us. We are a generally a happy bunch. In fact, we are stronger than MS because we do not place our limitations ahead of our happiness. No one should. 

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But most importantly, we are stronger than MS because we feed off of each other’s positive energy.  Being around positivity naturally influences all areas of our lives. That’s not to say that we don’t have our moments of weakness, but luckily in this group it’s hard to not smile and laugh until our faces hurt.

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I can’t talk about laughing without talking about Mary. She has a boisterous, hearty laugh that can make anything funny. When Mary laughs, you can hear her practically from the next time zone. It is so contagious that sometimes I don’t even hear what she says because she is laughing so hard, but I can’t help but laugh anyway. According to Mary, we are stronger than MS because we have the ability to make everything funny. After all, laughter is the best medicine, right? And everyone can afford a good laugh. 

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Lemons

This week I’ve been thinking a lot about my blog and what my purpose was when I entered the blogosphere. I’m not sure I knew where it would go, but my mission has remained the same. Although I draw heavily from my life as an MS patient, I like to think that my experiences are relatable to anyone who has any kind of chronic illness, as well as their care partners and loved ones. Above all else, in my role as the eternal teacher, my hope is and always has been to connect with those who have similar struggles as mine and to educate others on the often unspoken needs of people with invisible illnesses. 

Truth!

Truth!

I knew I was going to start a blog for months before I actually did. I thought long and hard about what to even call it. I wanted the name to embody who I am, but give me the freedom to write about whatever I wanted. My friends and I did a lot of brainstorming together, trying to decide what words best describe me and my outlook on life. I have always been an optimistic person, and my outlook has definitely been tested during the last twelve years. But nothing has been able sway my mindset. Every dark cloud has a silver lining, as long as you figure out where to find it. You might have to dig a little deeper or look from different angles, but I guarantee you’ll find it if you look hard enough. 

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I finally decided to go with the lemons and lemonade theme because it is a perfect representation of how I live my life. Obviously things happen in life that suck. Big time. Those are the lemons. But those lemons can easily be made into lemonade, which is a heck of a lot sweeter and is also much more enjoyable. 

Looking at the big picture of my life, the bulk of the lemons I’ve been given can be traced back to the MonSter. I never questioned why I had to get MS, I only questioned what I would do to make lemonade with it. I think I’ve done a pretty decent job at it, because I honestly feel that for all the crap MS inflicts on me, I have been given many unexpected gifts that I never would have been given otherwise (which I will share in detail on a future blog entry!).

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Getting back to the mission of why I’m doing this whole blog thing, I’d like to clarify the following: there is a huge difference between negativity and honesty. At times I feel the need to write a piece that is an honest description of my life. “Negative” has never been a word used to describe me. Not ever. But a truthful explanation of my life with MS can be perceived by others in a negative manner because they don’t live with it. It is during those moments that the teacher in me surfaces to help them see the reality of life with MS, which is far too frequently brushed aside and certainly misunderstood by the population at large. 

I am being true to who I am and what my purpose is. I am now and always have been a girl who sees the glass as half full. At times the glass is empty (honestly!) and I can describe what it looks like for others to see, because maybe their glass has only ever been half full (or half empty!) and they don’t understand since they have never experienced it.  Just because the glass is empty, does not mean that it’s a bad thing. It just means that I need a refill… Preferably lemonade, please!

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The Great Closet Purge

In the past I have written about weight and body image (http://www.makinglemonadebecauseican.com/weight/ and http://www.makinglemonadebecauseican.com/body-image/) and I have finally reached a new milestone. I’m not sure why I was holding on to clothing, as if they were relics from my past life. I think part of me hoped I’d once again be able to wear some of the beautiful clothing that had been sitting in my closets, taking up space, for nearly 2 years now.  I’m pretty sure there was the thought that I could be motivated by seeing them hanging there, but motivation has never been my problem. Every time I went in my closet to take one of the very few pieces that I wear regularly, I was reminded of a dream that may never come to pass.  I knew I would get there eventually, and this week, I finally hit the breaking point.

As I went into my closet to pick out something to wear for my volunteer job, I sat there, taking in my collection of clothing, wondering why the heck I was still holding on to theses items. Why taunt myself? In the heat of the moment, I began pulling out things I knew would no longer fit. I hadn’t planned on attempting to tackle this chore just yet, as it was as much emotional as it was physical.  I knew it was coming, but I had no idea how big a job this was going to be.  I have two walk-in closets, which the builder told us were his and hers closets, but in our house they are hers and hers.  

I was like a tornado, leaving a trail of destruction in my wake. I began pulling clothes off the hangers and throwing them into a quickly growing pile. I had to take a break after the first half of the first closet, explaining to my husband that it was going to get much worse before it gets better. His response was typical but fitting. He told me that at least if I fall (because I do fall more often than I care to admit!) I would have a soft place to land.  

The ever-growing pile of clothes!

The ever-growing pile of clothes!

It was as if the more I threw on the pile, the more liberated I felt. I have moved on with my life in so many other ways, so why was it so hard for me to move on here? In fact, it should have been easier to part with the clothes than to part with my livelihood. I have been working hard on the emotional piece of accepting disability retirement before I was ready to retire on my own terms. These tangible reminders of a very different me are completely useless to me now. The truth is, now that I’m not working anymore, I don’t really need a whole lot of clothes anyway! If I’m not volunteering, you will most likely find me wearing exercise clothes, so clothing requirements are not quite what they used to be for me.  

I had 5 bags not even including the pile pictures above.

I had 5 bags not even including the pile pictures above.

Allow me to explain why I feel so liberated. For the first time in my life, I feel comfortable despite the fact that I’m still not at my ideal size. Here’s why: I work very hard to be fit and active, despite my challenges. I take spin class, I work out with a trainer, and she sends me home with “homework”, which I gladly complete. I fuel my body with healthy foods, and not junk. It has been a slow recovery from a bad relapse, with a bad weight-related reaction to high dose IV steroids given as a treatment. But I’m starting to notice that I finally feel stronger, and I’m finally seeing changes in how I look. It’s slow as hell but it’s happening. Having the clothes in my closet isn’t going to help it happen any quicker! I do not want to compare myself to anyone anymore, not even the pre-retirement Rennie. I may never get back to where I once was, but that’s ok! I am learning to accept this aspect of my life, even though it has been a struggle as long as I can remember. You might not know it by looking at me, especially if you look through society’s lens, but for a chick with MS, I’m pretty bad ass. 

Who needs all those clothes? Not this girl!

Who needs all those clothes? Not this girl!

Clinical Trial

In honor of Clinical Trials Awareness Week (May 4-8, 2015), I decided to share my experience as a participant in the clinical trial for what was once FTY720, then Fingolimod, and ultimately became Gilenya, the first oral medication for relapsing forms of Multiple Sclerosis. 

The months leading up to my search for alternate treatment options were some of the darkest of my life. I had exhausted all of the available approved medications. I had failed on a once a month infusion therapy, which to me was nothing more than hanging out with my friends once a month, except we all had IVs in our arms. I began a daily injection, which ruled my world. I had horrible injection site reactions, regardless of how diligently I rotated my injection sites. I tried a heating pad, I tried ice, I tried morning, I tried night, I tried just after a shower.  I tried everything to make things better, but to no avail. The worst part about the MS treatments is that they don’t offer any “relief”, and taking them is a really all about the future. They are the best chance we have of slowing the progression on an inevitably progressive illness, but there is no instant gratification, and the results will never truly be known. In any case, I knew I wanted to be on treatment, but I did not feel that I could withstand the torture of the burning lumps, bruises, and excruciating after effects of my current medication.  

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With no other treatment options, I dove into the world of clinical trials. Coincidentally, I had seen a segment on the news regarding the Novartis Freedoms II trial testing the efficacy and safety of an oral medication, and I learned that the trial was recruiting participants. I found an online screener, completed it, and was directed to a study center that was participating.  After the online screener, I received a generic “thank you for your interest” email, advising me that if my preliminary responses indicated I was eligible, a study nurse would contact me. I felt deflated, again yearning for instant gratification but not getting it. But several days later, I received a phone call from the nurse, and spent about an hour discussing the course of my MS in great detail. At the end of our conversation, I was one step closer as we scheduled a face-to-face appointment to discuss the informed consent, which is a huge document outlining every single side effect that had been reported, as well as what my responsibilities would include. It was a pretty scary wad of papers that my husband and I scoured through (also enlisting the help of my dad, my sister, and my mother-in-law), and came back with a list of questions for my appointment. 

In November of 2008, I had my first of many appointments at The Gimbel MS Center at Holy Name Hospital in Teaneck, NJ. It was one of the very first comprehensive care centers for MS and it has a great reputation, particularly relating to research studies. I met with the study nurse who went over the informed consent, point by point with me. She patiently answered all of my questions, understanding of how scary a proposition it is to enroll in a research study where you may (or may not) be taking a medication that is brand new, with side effects and efficacy yet to be discovered. Preliminary results from early trials can be encouraging but still do not tell the entire story. But that November day in ’08, I made a decision that undoubtedly changed my life for the better. I consented to a two year, double blind, placebo controlled clinical trial. I knew that the possibility existed that I would be on no medication at all for two years, but they were testing two different drug strengths versus placebo, so I felt that my odds were pretty good. Instead of a fifty/fifty chance of getting the product, I had a two out of three chance. In my mind, I just knew that the universe would take care of me. 

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Being in a clinical trial requires commitment. Even before I took my first dose, I had two full days of baseline testing which included visits with a dermatologist, an ophthalmologist, pulmonary exams, MRIs, EKGs, and I even had to wear a 24 hour Holter Monitor (which I told my students was recording everything going on in the classroom…and they believed it!). Additionally, I had to meet with the researching neurologist, the examining neurologist, and I underwent a battery of neurological tests (which I’m convinced are all meant as torture devices) with the study nurse. And this process was repeated every 3 months. As much as scheduling was often difficult because I was still working, being monitored so closely made me feel safe even in previously uncharted territory in the world of MS treatments. 

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It didn’t take long before I was convinced that I was on the product and not a placebo. I am very sensitive to medications, and I am known to experience side effects, even those deemed “rare” for most patients. This was no exception! In fact, there were  times that I was forced to take a “study drug holiday” until things normalized in my system. I was doubtful that my elevated liver enzymes could be attributed to the “placebo effect”! But I still stuck it out. I committed for a two year trial, and I knew in advance what the risks were. I could have opted out at any time, but I felt it was important to follow through. They might not have liked how my body reacted at times, but it was data that needed to be collected for the good of the MS Community.

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This was a 3 month supply of my study drug. Every 3 months I had to bring what was remaining and switch for a new “kit”, even if there were pills left. They always gave a few extra just to allow for scheduling issues.

Nothing about the clinical trial surprised me, including the fact that they did not want to use me in an extension trial. In fact, they did not even want me to complete the trial with them. At month 21, the very product I had been taking, became commercially available as Gilenya, the first ever oral medication for Multiple Sclerosis. I maintain that if my numbers were ideal throughout my time in the trial, I would have been asked to complete the “exit” portion, which in essence, would have sealed my numbers into the results of the trial (and also given me “free” study meds for 3 more months!). I transitioned to the commercial product, which was fine by me, because I still got what I wanted in the end: another treatment option.

This is what the Gilenya packaging looks like. It is the worst concept ever, particularly for patients who lack manual dexterity. I hope they re-visit this concept at some point! Also, it is only a 28 day supply, and runs about $5,000.

This is what the Gilenya packaging looks like. It is the worst concept ever, particularly for patients who lack manual dexterity. I hope they re-visit this concept at some point! Also, it is only a 28 day supply, and runs about $5,000.

Years later, we were “unblinded”, and as it turns out, I was on Gilenya the whole time. I learned a lot through the process, and I know it taught me more about being a “professional patient” than I ever thought possible. It’s true that my motives for enrolling in the clinical trial were self-serving, but ultimately I knew that I was also doing for the greater good. I was patient number 002516, and I’m damn proud of it. 

Broadway the Hard Way

Just last weekend, there was a big celebration for my dad’s 70th birthday in New York City. My dad lives in Florida, and now that he no longer has a NJ home, just about every time I want to see him when he is up here, it requires me traveling into the City. I understand that this seems to be a central location for them, as my sister lives in the City, and my step-siblings (and my dad’s 5 grandsons) live in Rockland County, NY. I also understand that my dad doesn’t rent a car anymore because when he does, he inevitably schleps all over the tri-state area, which is exhausting for him and not enjoyable, particularly since he isn’t all that comfortable with night driving anymore. 

The view from my dad's NJ home when he still had it.

The view from my dad’s NJ home when he still had it.

The celebration for my dad included a Broadway show (The Lion King), followed by a meal with the entire family. While many people would love to take part in these activities, and I’m not saying I’m not grateful for the opportunity, but the overall environment in that neighborhood is very difficult to manage with MS. 

First, the drive in. In the past we have relied on public transportation, which is generally very efficient. We live about 6 miles from the train station, but we then have to find parking there. I love taking the train, but then you always have to be concerned about the schedule. I used to run in and out of the city all the time on the train. Now the thought of driving to the train station, finding parking, walking through the narrow aisle of the train, and combatting the herd at Penn Station is enough to paralyze me. Since my husband was with me yesterday, we opted to drive, assuming we would get there more quickly (and with less hassle) than on the train. Bad assumption. It took us nearly two and a half hours to get there. We were stressed out before the day even started. 

My sister and I love Fernando. He works at our favorite tapas place, Bar Jamon.

My sister and I love Fernando. He works at our favorite tapas place, Bar Jamon.

When we finally parked the car, we had to cross through Times Square to drop our gift at the restaurant since we were not permitted to bring packages into the theater. There is nothing like NYC on a beautiful spring day, which is why it was jam-packed with tourists. Bruce can move more quickly than I can, and he can navigate through tight spaces well more gracefully than I can.  Just looking at the crowd was enough to put me off balance. As we weaved our way through the crowd, I could have been knocked over at any moment because of how unsteady I was.  My feet were numb (as they usually are), but they were vibrating from the inside out. I have no better words to describe the sensation, but those with MS know exactly what I’m talking about. 

We finally got the gift to the restaurant and began our trek back through Times Square to get to the theater. It was the same excruciating experience making our way through the crowd as it was the first time. Except this time, the destination was a Broadway theater packed with people.  The staircases were crowded and I wasn’t always able to be by the bannister.  The aisles were narrow and the seats were tight. I wasn’t about to attempt a trip to the bathroom with the house lights off, for fear of tripping, and I wasn’t about to attempt it with the crowds at intermission. So I stayed in my seat with my legs on fire by the end of the show.  

View from the High Line.

View from the High Line.

After the show, all 16 of us walked to the restaurant, a typical Italian restaurant in the theater district. The place was crowded, and the table was in a tight corner, as most tables in a New York City restaurant seem to be. I didn’t dare try to move once seated because the tables were so close together and I was extremely off balance. I could just see myself taking a nosedive into an unsuspecting patron’s food. We were packed tightly around the table, making it uncomfortable for me to even cut my food. And just to add insult to injury, it was so darn hot that I couldn’t even enjoy my wine, nor could I order a cup of coffee. I always have to be aware of my body temperature because my MS makes me incredibly heat sensitive. All of my symptoms become magnified when I get overheated, and if I don’t lose my vision, it certainly becomes distorted, which is just as scary now as it was the first time I experienced it nearly twelve years ago. 

I love how people do stuff like this in NYC. This guy was hanging out and painting in a tiny little park when we walked by.

I love how people do stuff like this in NYC. This guy was hanging out and painting in a tiny little park when we walked by.

All too often, experiences that are enjoyable for the population at large, are quite the opposite for an MS patient. Most people don’t realize how much harder things are when you have MS. In theory, celebrating my dad’s birthday in such a special way should have been an amazing way to spend the day. Unfortunately when faced with a myriad of symptoms that can not be seen by others, I simply grin and bear it. I put on a brave face for the benefit of my loved ones, because I know they want to think that everything is ok. On this day in particular, I was practically in tears by the time we made it back to the car because nothing was easy for me, and because it’s frustrating when things that are supposed to be fun usually end up with the same result: the opposite of fun because my body is in turmoil under the surface. I hate that I didn’t enjoy my family the way I should have because of how horrible I was feeling. 

View from the High Line.

View from the High Line.

The moral of this story is tried and true. Never, ever judge a book by the cover. MS is an illness with invisible symptoms. Just because you don’t see them, doesn’t mean they aren’t there. Don’t let the smile fool you, because most of us have learned to be pretty good actors so that we aren’t complete downers. Oh, and never take the little things for granted: like being able to feel your feet!