During this time of pandemic, I have had to dig deep to find my gratitude, which generally is not how I roll. I spent some time reading through past blogs to find my center, and this entry seemed most appropriate to share this week. It is from two years ago, but the sentiment applies 100% to the current situation in NJ and beyond. As always I am thankful to former students, especially Dani, for inspiring so much of my writing. Enjoy this entry from June of 2018…
Life is hard and it always throws unexpected curve balls our way. One of my amazingly awesome former students has had a pretty rough couple of days, and she made a post on Facebook where she countered every negative thing that has happened with a reason why she was grateful as a consequence. My head was full of thoughts about her: how proud I am of her, how much I love how much she is like me, and again, more pride. She also got me thinking about my own life, and I can honestly say that there is never a time when I am not grateful.
This past week was a frustrating one for me as well and so in the spirit of my Dani’s post, I will share very much in the same way she did. If you can’t find gratitude in each and every situation then I feel sad for you. For example, I participated in the Spartan race last week, and as a result found myself with 2 sprained ankles and couch-bound, which is NOT how I spend my time. Instead of sulking about it, I found gratitude in the fact that I did something on my bucket list. My body may not serve me perfectly all the time, and it may not look exactly how I want it yet, but I am still grateful for all the things that it allows me to do despite 15 years with MS and a recent battle with breast cancer. I am grateful that I was able to raise awareness in this very unique way, and not just for myself but on behalf of the many, many MS patients that can’t.
I was banged up and disappointed in my performance, but I was so damn grateful for the amount of support I received from friends, former students, and family. It reminded me that my circle is small but mighty, and I felt so much love in every single text, phone call, Facebook post, and however else I was contacted. How could I possibly not feel gratitude with all that love and support surrounding me?
The thing about feeling grateful is that it’s not a forced emotion. It comes when you change the way you look at life. Usually you find it when you’ve been through things that make you see how lucky you are despite the obstacles that life throws your way. I can say that truly feeling grateful has changed my perspective on absolutely everything that I go through. I have always been the glass half-full girl, and when gratitude is added to the mix, appreciation for life and the lessons we learn along the way is taken to a whole new level.
Life isn’t easy, especially when you are first adulting, and that’s one of the reasons I am so proud of Dani. She can look beyond the icky stuff and see the beauty of each situation, and she can articulate it for others who have not yet developed the ability to really appreciate what they have rather than dwelling on what they don’t have. There are so many reasons why she’s my “twin minus twenty”, and her Facebook post reminded me of just this one. My career may have ended abruptly and not in the way I had always envisioned, but like Dani, I am able to extract the good and be grateful for it.
I hope this will be my legacy from my career as a teacher. If my former students don’t remember a single word of the textbook Spanish that I taught them, I’m ok with that. But if they remember how I looked at life, not letting the negative overpower my world and they emulate that as adults, then I have truly achieved success as a teacher… because let’s face it, knowing how to make that lemonade is way more important in the long run, and that’s what I want them all to remember. Thank you Dani, for validating my life’s work. Keep on being you, and the world is yours!