So this week, the thoughts circulating in my head are two-fold. First of all, a former student told me that I “will forever be one of her biggest inspirations of strength”, and that “she doesn’t want me to ever forget that”. This is something I have heard many times, but it still surprises me that I could be an inspiration for anyone. I just don’t think that way. Then on the heels of that, a friend is having some medical issues and vented to me because she knows I can relate. I am happy when people allow me to listen to their issues, because often they think I have so many things to deal with that they feel bad complaining to me, and so they don’t. So how are these things connected? Bear with me, and hopefully you’ll follow me.
When I was a teacher, I didn’t feel it was appropriate for me to not disclose my illness, partly because the year that I was diagnosed, I was absent so many times for doctor’s appointments, tests, etc., that I felt a need to explain to my students what was going on. But the biggest reason I gave full disclosure was because that’s who I was as a teacher. I was a “lead by example” kind of teacher. I felt an obligation to use my illness as a teaching tool, not only for my students, but also for my peers. Teachable moments that happened organically (and had nothing to do with the curriculum) taught them the most valuable lessons, and are far more relevant to them as adults than textbook Spanish could ever be.
The lessons I tried to teach my students included all of the things I tried to tell my friend who is frustrated with one medical situation after another. These were not intended to be lessons, it’s just how I live my life, and if anyone can be inspired by that and remember it years later, then I truly accomplished my mission as a teacher.
Here goes:
We have all been dealt a hand in this game of life. Good or bad, it’s the one you’ve got. In my world, quitting is not an option. You do what you can with what you have been given. Take your weaknesses and turn them into strengths, and always remember that overcoming adversity builds strength of character. Do not dwell on what you can not change, and work hard at changing what’s in your control. Celebrate your accomplishments (whether physical or emotional), because although baby steps may be small, they are still steps. Giving up means MS wins, and I will NOT let that happen. There are so many things beyond my control, so I find peace with living in my world that despite my situation, my glass (of lemonade) is perpetually half-full.
I don’t think my outlook is unique at all. I’d like to believe that anyone in my position would do the same because the human spirit is so incredibly resilient. The first time a student told me that I was her inspiration, my jaw dropped open in complete and utter shock. Through the years I have continued to hear this from former students, other MS patients I meet, and random people from my past, and I still don’t really think I do anything to deserve such praise, even though it is beyond humbling to hear it.
I love that I was able to teach these lessons to my students and also to my friend (whose spirits were already lifted as of the writing of this entry), but I will never be able to think of myself as anyone’s inspiration. I’m just living life the best way I can: with a half-full glass of lemonade in my hand!