There are so many things that suck about MS, but the longer you live with it, the more they just become a part of your “normal”. I could list them but I honestly don’t really think about them all that often because I’m just used to living life with MS.
This week I was reminded of something very important that I tend to forget simply because, well… I have MS. Also I can do so many things but when I don’t think about small, menial things while I am doing them, I am inevitably made aware in sometimes painful yet always embarrassing ways.
Here’s what I mean. During the course of a typical work week, I take four yoga classes, I have two private sessions with my trainer, I volunteer one shift at Marty’s Place Senior Dog Sanctuary, and I get acupuncture and chiropractic care. And that’s just a normal week with no doctor’s appointments or other essentials like hair color, reiki, etc. I’m pretty active… and I would even venture to say that I’m fairly fit. As a former teacher, schedules are a necessity for me, and this one keeps me busy, builds my strength and centers me, and feeds my soul.
One thing I might mention is that most of my limbs are neuropathic, which means I can’t feel them. So if I’m not looking at my feet, I don’t really know where they are, except by habit. So when I’m working out or doing yoga I am completely focused on what I’m doing because I have to be.
One would think that with all the things I am able to do in the gym or on the mat, simply walking would be a piece of cake. Not so much. This week, I ran a very rare errand which required me to go into an actual store. It happens so infrequently, and I only do it when I am feeling up to it and at times I know the store won’t be crowded.
As dog owners, we burn candles every single day because we are paranoid that our house might smell like dog if anyone comes over. Also, I’m a bit of a snob and I only use the Yankee Candle jars because they somehow seem the safest to me. So every few months I go to the outlet and stock up on our usual fragrances. I “run” (but not literally) in and out within 10 minutes and I’m done. This week I bought three full crates of candles and the woman working there said if I pulled my car up to the curb, they would bring the crates out to my car for me. Excellent!
So I headed for my car thinking how efficient I was, and before I knew it, I was on the ground. Serves me right for getting ahead of myself! I couldn’t even tell you how it happened. I can tell you that I fell fast and hard. I can tell you that there was a really nice woman who saw it happen and asked if I was ok. I got up quickly, made a mental note that nothing seemed broken or dislocated, and feeling more embarrassed than I can even begin to describe, I told her I was fine, that I have MS and that I fall all the time. She asked if I was sure I was ok and told me I took it like a champ. I think that’s an observation of how hard I fell plus a compliment that I popped up so quickly. It was really out of sheer embarrassment. If I was at home (where I normally fall) I might have hung out on the ground for a bit longer.
I finally got to my car, brought it to the curb, and the 2 ladies from the candle store started asking me if I was ok etc., etc., probably more concerned about a law suit than anything else, but still. They were sweet. As I answered that I was fine, that I have MS, and that I always fall, I was half a step shy (because I wasn’t looking at my feet) and almost… ALMOST went down again. Thank the universe that I managed to keep myself upright, with a huge stumble, but upright all the same.
Most people looking at me would never guess that I have issues such as neuropathy because my body has learned (somewhat) how to compensate when it can. When we are going to places that generate crowds, or where I want people to be aware of my weakness (such as NYC) I use a cane as a visible statement to others. But on a normal day, I don’t use a cane, and certainly not when I have just had a private session with my trainer! My first instinct when I fall (even at home) is always to jump up and look around to see if anyone saw. I know I shouldn’t be embarrassed but old habits die hard, and in the world I grew up in, when anyone fell, it was followed by pointing and laughter, and often never-ending teasing. People always tend to be more sensitive if they see a cane or a walker, but I had neither. I’m so glad that there are some nice people out there, like the lady who said I took it like a champ, who didn’t make me feel embarrassed (I did that all on my own), but rather I felt that she was truly concerned.
Most people who don’t know me, might never even realize that I have MS. Hell, there are days that I don’t even think about the fact that I have it. But I do. Having MS means that I fall more often than your average person… and I have been that way since before I was even diagnosed. I remember the first time my husband witnessed me falling down the stairs, he came running to the bottom of the steps where he found me laughing. I have to laugh at myself because what I really need to do is take my sister’s advice. She tells me that I have to be careful when I am not standing on my head (see below).