The Merriam-Webster dictionary defines the word “warrior” as a person engaged in some struggle or conflict. I never really thought about this word much and although I have always known what it means, it didn’t become personal for me until June 2, 2003 when I was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis. Even then, it didn’t become embedded in my vocabulary until I realized just how hard things are for an MS patient.
For a while, my life didn’t change much while the onset of my symptoms resolved and I went into a remission. That’s the thing about relapsing MS. Remissions lull you into a false sense of security. I was SURE that I was going to be the one to beat the odds and have what they call a clinically isolated incident, without ever having another relapse. After all, I was working full time (plus), putting in 13 hour days at work, hitting the gym 4-5 days a week, and doing everything as I always had. But alas, I did not beat the odds, no matter how strongly I felt I would.
But as the years have passed, things have changed for me. I know that I am not the one to have beaten the odds, and that’s ok. Instead I found the strength I needed but had never called upon in the past. It’s amazing how strong you can be when it’s the only choice you have. Cliche, I know… but true indeed.
Warriors don’t just fight battles against others. The most difficult battles are the ones you fight against your own body. MS makes the most mundane of tasks overwhelming and it’s strange for some people to think about having to tap into your inner warrior just to take a shower and get ready to go somewhere. But it’s true. What seems simple to the vast majority is not so easy when you are battling against your own immune system every single moment of every single day.
My opinion of being a warrior is probably different than most. For those who have progressive MS, they are warriors every single day… as long as they wake up and do their very best at living a happy life despite their condition. And if they can do it with a smile on their face then their warrior status is even more elevated, because just doing that takes more strength than most of us can even begin to imagine.
For me, being a warrior means accepting the hand you have been dealt as if you chose that hand. It’s about doing what you can do (with a smile on your face) and not complaining every other second about how shitty you might have it. It’s about putting on the big girl panties and powering through. It’s also about recognizing your limitations and accepting them as part of who you are. It’s about living life no matter how hard it gets. It’s about allowing pity parties, as long as they are short-lived, because we do deserve to have them every once in a while. It’s about conserving energy when possible so that we can fully take part in activities that are important to us.
That’s not to say I’m all warrior all the time. I am blessed to have a husband who supports me no matter what…. even if I don’t clean the house, I don’t food shop, and I don’t often cook. I expend my warrior strength focusing on me and what is going to keep me strong as the years pass so that we can have more happy, functional years together, and that’s what he wants too. He understands that everything is a struggle because there is a war waging inside my body, and I seldom complain about it because it serves no purpose.
So basically the moral of this entry is that we all have an inner warrior. It’s when you feel your weakest that it is just waiting for you to call upon it. All you have to do is dig deep and rest assured that you have the power within to carry you through the darkest of times. You might never have given your inner warrior a second thought because you haven’t had to. But if or when you do, I guarantee that it’s there, just waiting to emerge.